Barbara H. (Henry) Buckingham

Born: Thu., Sep. 30, 1937
Died: Wed., Apr. 3, 2019

Funeral Mass

Mon., Jul. 01, 2019
Location: St. Mary's Catholic Church

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 Brantingham, NY – Barbara H. Buckingham, 81, died peacefully on Wednesday, April 3, 2019, while surrounded by members of her loving family at Treasure Coast Hospice in Stuart, FL. She took ill while visiting her daughter and son-in-law in Stuart.

Born September 30, 1937, in Lowville, NY, a daughter of Adrian and Grace Pate´ Henry, she was a graduate of Fr. Leo Memorial School in Croghan, NY. Following high school, she attended Mercy Hospital School of Nursing in Watertown, NY, and graduated in 1958 with a Registered Nurse’s diploma.

She married Francis G. Buckingham on June 6, 1959, at St. Stephen’s Catholic Church in Croghan with the Rev. Reginald Baliman officiating. They were married 56 years prior to her husband’s passing. After residing in Carthage for 37 years, they moved to Brantingham in 2001 following retirement.

Barbara began her nursing career at Mercy Hospital in Watertown. She also worked at Meadowbrook Hospital on Long Island, NY, and Lewis County General Hospital in Lowville. Her last position as an RN was at Carthage Area Hospital, where she worked for 22 years before retiring.

She was a communicant of St. Mary’s Catholic Church in Glenfield, NY.

During her younger years, Barbara was an avid downhill skier and enjoyed reading, quilting, sewing, painting, and kayaking. Her home was filled with her beautiful artwork and crafts. She was an active member of the Brantingham Book Club, Walkie Talkies, and the Tug Hill Quilters. She loved to travel, especially to visit and spend time with her children and grandchildren.

Surviving are five children, Michael F. Buckingham, of Baltimore, MD, Paul J. Buckingham, Croghan, NY, Teresa E. and husband, Bernie Breault, of Heuvelton, NY, Maria J. and husband, Patrick Dowling, of Sewall’s Point, FL, and Brantingham, NY, and Margaret M. Buckingham, of Brantingham, NY; ten grandchildren and five great-grandchildren; two sisters, Ann Sergott, of Utica, NY, and Carol Loconti, of Lowville, NY, and several nieces and nephews.

Services for Barbara, including a funeral Mass will be held on Monday, July 1, 2019 at 10:00 a.m. at St. Mary’s Church in Glenfield, NY, with interment to follow in Brantingham Cemetery.  A celebration of life will be held in Brantingham following the services.

In lieu of flowers, memorial donations may be made to Treasure Coast Hospice online at or to the Brantingham-Greig Library at 5186 Greig Road, Greig, NY 13345.

Arrangements are with Scanlon Funeral Home, Croghan, NY. To view Barbara’s online obituary or to leave a message of sympathy, please visit

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Norma Anderson
   Posted Fri April 05, 2019
So sorry to hear of Barbara’s passing. A lot of fond memories as I was a neighbor to Loconti’s for many years. RIP Barb

Katie Zehr
   Posted Fri April 05, 2019
Tess,Bernie, Renee, family, and friends
I am so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you all at this time.
-Katie Zehr

Tony & Cyndy Andre
   Posted Fri April 05, 2019
Our sincere condolences to all of Barb’s family. It is never easy to lose a parent. Barb will always be remembered for her outgoing spirit and wonderful love for life. She was a very talented and artistic person and I will miss her guidance for quilting! Rest In Peace dear friend, we will both miss you❣️💗

Mike Covey
   Posted Sat April 06, 2019
Mike, Paul, Teresa, Maria, sorry to hear of Moms passing. So many memories of growing up with the West Street gang. Blessed you all were to have such fantastic parents. Thinking of you all.

Joyce Hill
   Posted Sat April 06, 2019
My deepest sympathy and my prayers to all of Barb's family. So sorry for your loss.

Mary Therese Durr
   Posted Sat April 06, 2019
Dear children of Barbara (and Francis),
For ten years, my parents rented a 2 camps on Brantingham Lake where their adult children and their small grandchildren could spend a week of swimming, kayaking and singing. Although we no longer go to Brantingham we still spend a week together, now with our own adult children. Francis and Barbara always welcomed us and shared the beauty of their lake and their laughter. Barbara continued her easy way and wonderful laugh even after her love died. It will be hard but I hope you can all do the same by continuing their easy way and heart felt laughter. You have special parents. And their memory keeps them forever among us.

Neil Ver'Schneider
   Posted Sat April 06, 2019
Our prayer in thanksgiving for the gift Barbara was to all of us
Neil, Gene and Jackl Ver'Schneider

We give Barbara back to you, O Lord,
You who first gave her to us,
And as you did not lose her in the giving
So we do not lose her in the return!

Not as the world gives do you give, O Lord of Souls.
For what is yours is ours also,
if we belong to you.
Life is unending because love is undying,
And the boundaries of this mortal life are but an horizon,
And an horizon is but the limit of our sight.

Lift us up strong Son of God,
That we may see further.
Strengthen us in faith, that we may see beyond the horizon.
And while you prepare a place for us, as you have promised,
Prepare us also for that happy place, that where you are
we may be also, with those we have loved forever.
[Adapted from Father Bede Barrett, OP.]

Susan Jacobs
   Posted Sat April 06, 2019
Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you as you remember your mom in the coming days and weeks. I am sure your mom and dad are together now and both would say, "It's a Wonderful Life" We are looking forward to seeing you in July. Peace to all, Tom and Sue

Walt and Maureen Sugruse
   Posted Sat April 06, 2019
We will miss Barb with all our hearts. Your Mother was a very kind, caring, talented gal. Barb was willing to to help others and above all was a wonderful friend. Your mother will always be watching over you. Barb spoke fondly of all of her family and enjoyed spending time with you. Our good friend Barb, may you Rest in Peace.
Walt and Maureen

Ann and Jim Bellanca
   Posted Sun April 07, 2019
Such very sad news. Our sincere sympathy to Maria and Pat and the entire Buckingham family on the loss of your mom. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. Fondly, Ann and Jim Bellanca

Mary Fawcett
   Posted Sun April 07, 2019
To all the Buckingham family...

15 years ago my husband, Rocky and I were looking for a contractor to build our house...We were told to look at your mom and dad's home in Brantingham...Up we went and knew instantly that we wanted whoever built their house to build ours...I got out of the car and started down the driveway to get a better look and my husband said "you can't do that"...well Barb came out and invited us in to look around...We were there for hours and she could not have been more gracious...Later we met Francis and he showed us his newest toy, his Roomba...He was so funny...I will never forget the kindest your parents showed both of us...They were certainly wonderful people...

Rich Renaud
   Posted Thu April 11, 2019
I am so sorry for your loss. Your mom was such a good and kind person and Jm sorry I didnt get to see her before she passed. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you.

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