Howard E. Ray

Born: Mon., Apr. 7, 1930
Died: Sun., Oct. 7, 2018


11:00 AM to 1:00 PM, Thu., Oct. 11, 2018
Location: Harrisville Fire Hall

Funeral Service

1:00 PM Thu., Oct. 11, 2018
Location: Harrisville Fire Hall

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HARRISVILLE, NY ~ Howard E. Ray, 88, former Town of Pitcairn Highway Superintendent, of State Rt. 812, Harrisville, died Sunday, October 7, 2018 in Colonial Park Rehabilitation and Nursing Center in Rome, NY, where he had been a patient since September 7th.

Born April 7, 1930 in Ogdensburg, NY, a son of Edward and Luella Holmes Ray, he was educated at schools in Edwards, NY.

A veteran, he enlisted in the US Army on October 7, 1948, and served with the HQ Co 9th Div of the Regular Army until transferring to the US Army Reserves on Oct. 4, 1949.  He served with the 314th Military Police Battalion while in the Reserves until he was honorably discharged as a PFC on September 15, 1954.

He had marriages to Martha Graham, Vera Parow, who are both deceased, and to Kay E. Miller, who he is survived by.

A tractor trailer driver for much of his life, he drove the big rigs for over 23 years for the Newton Falls Paper Company, during which he was recognized with the One Million Mile Certificate for driving over a million miles with never an accident.  Throughout much of his career as a tractor trailer driver, he also owned and operated the Village Inn in Harrisville during the early 1970’s, drove tour buses for the Flack Company in Ogdensburg, and for Leon Laforty out of Oxbow in the mid 1970’s, and served a short stint as a St. Lawrence County Deputy Sheriff.  From the late 1970’s until the mid 1980’s, he also owned and operated the Texaco Gas Station in Harrisville, and delivered snowplows for Viking Snow Plow in Harrisville for many years. He eventually became the Pitcairn Highway Superintendent where he served for 3 terms before retiring in December, 2017.

He was a member of Gouverneur Elks and Beaver River Memorial Post 1663 American Legion in Croghan. 

Throughout his life, he was well known for being able to drive anything on four wheels including heavy equipment.  As a people-person, he always enjoyed interacting with people, loved his German Shepard dogs, and especially loved his wife, Kay, and anytime spent with her.

In addition to his wife, Kay, he is survived by nine children, Rhonda J. (Donald) King, of Largo, FL, Vicki R. Kuan, of Watertown, NY, Randall H. Ray, David E. (Uta) Parow, all of Harrisville, Donna M. (Robert) Stone, of Carthage, Julie A. (Richard) Malbeuf, of Harrisville, Carol L. (Michael) Urbaniweiz, of Adams Ctr., Barbara C. (Brian) Bassette, of Canton, and Jeffrey W. (Kerri) Miller, of New Bremen; 18 grandchildren and 13 great, great grandchildren; a brother, James Ray, of Buffalo, NY, and two sisters, Patricia Felt, of Buffalo, and Virginia Miller, of Ogdensburg.

He was predeceased by two sisters, Ruth Wright, and Sharon Meldrum.

A Memorial Service for Howard will be held on Thursday, October 11, 2018 at 1:00 p.m. at the Harrisville Fire Hall with Rev. Canon Samuel P. Lundy, Fire Chaplin, officiating. A graveside committal with military honors will follow in the Harrisville Community Cemetery, Harrisville. A funeral luncheon will follow the committal service at the Harrisville Fire Hall.

Calling hours where family and friends will be received at the Fire Hall will also be on Thursday, from 11:00 a.m. until the commencement of the funeral service.

Memorial donations may be made to the Harrisville VFD Rescue Squad.

Funeral arrangements are under the direction of Scanlon Funeral Home, Harrisville.

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Kevin Wells
   Posted Mon October 08, 2018
The Wells Family sends condolences, thoughts and prayers to Kay and to all of the Howard Ray family and friends. Rest in peace Howard Ray and thank you for all that you did for others.

Tammy Hall
   Posted Tue October 09, 2018
I'm sorry very sorry to hear of Howard's passing. I enjoyed my time working with him at your home. He was always a pleasure.

Brian and Krista Wohnsiedler
   Posted Wed October 10, 2018
We extend our deepest sympathies to the family during your time of loss.

David Bush
   Posted Wed October 10, 2018
Kay, I'am so sorry for your loss. It is so hard to find the words. He was such a great guy. He will be missed.

Mr. and Mrs. Larry Mashaw
   Posted Sat October 13, 2018
Dear Kay and family, We are so sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Sincerely, Larry and Tammy

Lynda and Elton wood
   Posted Thu November 15, 2018
Dear Kay, we are just seeing this of Howard's passing. Sorry to hear this. He was a great man. And know he will be miss. Our thoughts and prayers out to you and family. Lynda and Elton wood.

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